Real Mama Talk - Postnatal depression

Hi lovelies

This Blog I feel is so important to share! it is so relatable for so many mums out there, who need to know that they are not alone in their journey.

Motherhood like anything has its challenges and I'm so thankful for the lovely glow mama blog for sharing todays story with us all.

She is a lovely mama to two babes and one on the way and is doing such an amazing job you can follow her journey at
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Please tell us a bit about yourself?

I'm a mum of two boys (and a third on the way!) living in Wellington, New Zealand. I have the most amazing husband, am a fine art portrait photographer, and drink way too much coffee. I love my dressing gown, trips to the beach, and plants (although I'm better at keeping kids alive than I am plants!).

What has your experience been like being a mum so far?

I had my first very young (17! Eeeek), then my second 9 years later, so it's been a long journey. Although parenthood has had its ups and downs, I've grown a lot, learned a lot, laughed a lot and loved most of it - and the bits that I haven't loved have been worth it anyway ;)

What has been the most difficult experience in your parenthood journey so far?

Developing PND after my second was born was definitely a challenge; on top of dealing with depression and anxiety, I also had massive guilt over "not having it all together" and being a burden to my family. PND also makes everything else a thousand times more difficult to deal with, so it becomes a bit of a vicious cycle.

How would you describe your parenting style?

Balanced - I try to pick my battles and not worry about the stuff that doesn't matter.

what is your favourite thing about being a mum?

It gives you a renewed view of the world! I love seeing life through my children's eyes - there's so much magic to be rediscovered.

Postnatal depression

I was diagnosed at 5 months pp after my second was born, although I probably developed it much earlier - I was just stubborn and didn't want to admit anything was wrong. Once I actually went to the doctor (ie. My husband pretty much made me haha), getting that diagnosis was a massive relief in a way - it meant that a) I had something to fight, and b) it meant there was a possibility I'd be able to get better (for a while I was like... Is this it? Will this just be my life now?). After loads of therapy and lifestyle changes (basic things like making sure I left the house and ate better), I got to a place where I'm now mostly OK - and I know my signs and triggers, so if I start slipping down that slope again, I can catch it much quicker and get support. It's also been a huge help talking to others about it, letting them in and accepting help and support. Talking about it also makes you realise how common it is!! We're never alone in this, it affects so many more people than we realise.

What are some tips for other mum's out there who are going through postnatal depression?

Connect and get yourself some support. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Start taking care of yourself in the smallest, most basic of ways, then build up from there - keep it achievable. And most of all - be kind to yourself. Know that you're doing your best. Know that you'll get better.

What would you tell someone who is going through something similar?

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to feel loved. You deserve to feel proud that you're surviving. Keep going - you've got this.

Thank you so much for participating in this series’s and sharing your story with us.

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